When arranging a funeral with families, possibly the most frequently asked question is “What is normal?”
There is no ‘normal’. Every family has different values and expectations determined by their cultural beliefs, traditions and the wishes of the deceased. Families should be encouraged to take the time to arrange a funeral and service that best reflects the person who has died.
When to have the service
Timing is flexible – there are no laws governing when a funeral service must be held, it may be appropriate to have the service the following day or wait a week or more so distant family and friends can attend.
Where to have the service
Venues for funerals are not restricted to churches or chapels. Club rooms, community halls, hotels, homes, theatres, parks or gardens or simple graveside services are alternatives. Consider the accessibility of the venue and whether there is room for seating and catering.
Who to officiate at the service
A minister, celebrant, colleague, community leader or family members are all possibilities. There are no legal requirements as to who can officiate, however consideration must be given to their ability to perform on the day. It is their responsibility to liaise with the family and to plan and co-ordinate the structure of the service.
What to include
Music, floral tributes, readings, photos, videos, speakers, props and catering are all ways to reflect the values, qualities and connections of the person who has died.
