Broaching the funeral subject

GranniesWe are often asked how to broach the subject of funeral plans, either by children of ageing parents or concerned elderly individuals wanting to make their choices clear to their family.

Whatever your approach, perhaps an inclusive family conference or casually dropping the topic into a conversation – be prepared for the response and what course of action (if any) to take next:

  • You may need to investigate the family burial plot; the location (in New Zealand or overseas), the condition and whether there is room for more family members to be interred, either full burial or as ashes. Contact the cemetery with any information you may have and they will provide you with a report and advice.
  • Research on line – most funeral companies have a website, outlining the company’s philosophy, staff profiles, their facilities and services they offer.
  • Contact a local funeral company for an obligation-free discussion of your options.
  • Evaluate the benefits of pre-payment, funeral insurance or setting money aside in a separate bank account.
  • Funeral Plan – print this off, fill it in and send to your solicitor or give to a responsible family member or friend.

We advise researching your options when you can make rational and informed decisions. Families with clear instructions for the funeral are noticeably more relaxed. They are able to concentrate their time and energies on creating an event that is more inclusive and personal.

Broadbent & May has met with individuals who have had a terminal diagnosis and were keen to discuss their funeral arrangements. Some had very detailed plans which utilised the various talents of family members and friends.

The graphically skilled were asked to design the service sheet, the ‘techies’ produced the photoshow and compiled selected music, the artists and children decorated the coffin, photographers captured the day’s events, gardeners organised the floral tributes and the ‘foodies’ provided a delicious and generous spread.

Let’s have that conversation, make an appointment to come to our offices in Haining Street or we are only too happy to visit you, to offer advice, options and an obligation free estimate.